This morning I was doing my normal kid drop off, as I am about to enter the high school parking lot I see a kid in a red Jeep do a donut in the parking lot to get to his desired spot. Uhh.. no.
I dropped off my high schooler and as he was walking across the parking lot I circled around and parked myself right next to his vehicle, put up my finger in the "no, no, you bad toddler" and mouthed to him that he better not do it again.
I do have to give him props, he calmly got out of his vehicle, came to my window and talked calmly. It took everything I had to not go mother bear on him, but I managed. I told him that it was dangerous to do donuts in the parking lot, and his weak rebuttal was that he was "just doing what I do every day."
Kinda my point there buddy! I explained that I get it, he is a teen and will live forever, knows it all and doesn't think anything bad will happen. He assured me that he checked to see no one was there, yet some how, he missed the fact that a gigantic 15 passenger van was turning into the parking lot where he was finishing up his donut maneuver.
He called me m'am several times, and did apologize, but kept to the story that he did nothing wrong in his eyes. He seemed very level headed, but bull headed at the same time. This child was not going to concede that he may be wrong, could have endangered another person walking in the parking lot, or himself, or any other driver trying to get to a spot. He told me to have a nice day and left my window. I told him to also have a nice day, and to make it a safe one.
Being the overbearing parent that I am, I called the school on my cell and let them know that the child needs to be assured by ANOTHER adult, that it is NOT the way to drive in the parking lot, no matter how sure they are about the safety of driving like that. They said they were going to talk to him.
I felt a little guilty for calling the school on him, because I don't want him to just get hateful and not really listen to the message, but I needed the school to know they need to be a presence out there with the teens in the parking lot in the morning.
In the past two weekends we have had over 4 deaths, that I know of, because of car accidents. Experienced drivers, non alcohol related. All 4 of the fatalities were in separate accidents. Do I feel that I have the reason to be overly concerned? Hell yes!
I then called the police department, let them know that I think they are very diligent in patrolling the before school and after school area, but perhaps they can keep an eye on the parking lot with so many teen drivers. He said they have been paying particular attention during the day time because of the amount of skippers, and will have a vehicle stroll by a bit more in the morning.
I know that it is one of those tabu things to talk to someone else's child, but when it is going to potentially affect the life and safety of my child, I won't back down.
I wondered if it would have some sort of back lash on my son, because I HAD just dropped him off, and we are in a VERY easy to spot vehicle, so I asked, when I got my son, if he knew the child.
I am glad to say that he knows OF him, but not really. He said that he was telling his friends about the crazy lady that was yelling at him about doing donuts and acted all put out, which made me all the more glad I went as far as I did with calling the school and the police department. Obviously this child needs a few reminders that being safe is being cool.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Yipee!
I was thinking that the ship was going to get much tighter around here before it would set sail... but I was wrong!
My friend was right, trust that what will happen, will. Continue to work and look towards the future, but when roadblocks get into your way, don't get in a huff about them.
My student loan monies came today, so they should clear and be ready for use tomorrow. This means that we will be able to pay our Feburary bills. We still have a few hoops to hop through for DH student loans, but they will come just in time to pay for march I bet.
Its nice to be able to breath again.
My friend was right, trust that what will happen, will. Continue to work and look towards the future, but when roadblocks get into your way, don't get in a huff about them.
My student loan monies came today, so they should clear and be ready for use tomorrow. This means that we will be able to pay our Feburary bills. We still have a few hoops to hop through for DH student loans, but they will come just in time to pay for march I bet.
Its nice to be able to breath again.
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Toddlers don't really sleep... or do they...
Lets talk about sleep and little kids...
Most would agree that the kids need to know what to expect every night, if its bath and story or a bowl of popcorn each night, it needs to be the same. The brain likes patterns and remembers what is supposed to come next, bedtime is no different for our smart little brains!
If you have a little one that just can NOT regulate and sleep after months of doing the same, then try and look for other things that can help, but keep the routine the same.
1. Try to do a little toddler resistance training during the day.
~Don't you look at me sideways! I'm serious! Have your toddler bring the gallon of milk to the table at dinnertime. Perhaps the little one can push the full laundry basket across the house to where it needs to be. If you have more than one child, have them take turns pulling one another across the floor using a blanket. This toddler workout can be helpful and fun! What happens is the little muscles get a good work out and help the body understand that it needs rest. You may find that your little one needs to do their big workout earlier or later in the day, based on their energy levels.
2. Try some ambient noise.
~The sleep cycle is not just a fall asleep and then wake up, it is a series of events that happens in cycles through out the night. You will notice that your young one is easier to wake one time than another, this may be that you happened to wake them at a certain time in their sleep cycle. To help make sure that some little unexpected noise doesn't wake them, have some little noise in the back ground. The sound of the ocean or other small noise is relaxing in the background. Small sounds will cover the unexpected sound of a car passing or squirrel at the window. If you have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, or a sleeping sibling moves around a lot, the ambient noise will help to keep the brain from trying to figure out what the noise is.
3. Go with or without a night light.
~You may find that your child wakes in the night and needs the light to orient where they are, or that the light tells them to get up and explore. There is no right or wrong with this! Each child is going to vary on the level of stimulation they can take if they woke in the middle of the night before they can go back to sleep. If you find that they cry with out one, then by all means keep it. Once a child starts to freak out, they are awake, so its better to avoid this scene all together.
4. Drinks
~Some people are trying to break night wetting and so they try and keep the night drinks to a minimum. If you are avoiding the night stand drink, make sure the room is moist enough. A humidifier in the room will help the body not dry out and trigger a thirst response in the night. Make sure to have this item where the children can not get to it, and it does not have a heating element that can be exposed. There are many options that can work for you fairly cheap.
5. When everything is broken and nothing fixes it and the world is crashing down on you...
~I have a sensory child that does not regulate sleep. Her body does not make melatonin in the dark and let her body know that it is time to sleep. Here are some things that we have had to do to keep her safe, and for her to get some sleep.
A. Our doctor recommended melatonin. Check with your doctor to see if this is right for your child. This does not cause them to fall asleep like some medications parents try and use (benadryl or other PM medications) but helps them get to the state of falling asleep. If the child does not rest after taking the melatonin, the body will act as if it is not there and fight the effects. We have reading time after the melatonin in a dim room and they slowly go to sleep.
B. As a very small toddler, we had to gate her in her room with a safety gate. This allowed us to hear her with the door open, and also reminded her that she couldn't wander the house in the middle of the night when she woke.
C. Her room was set up for sleeping only. By taking the toys out of the room, we created a sleep space that didn't remind her of playtime. A few snuggly blankets, comfortable animal or two, and her noise reducing environment helps her to sleep the night through.
There are many more options out there, and I am not an expert, by far, so keep plugging away. Eventually they sleep, or grow up lol.
Happy sleeping!
Most would agree that the kids need to know what to expect every night, if its bath and story or a bowl of popcorn each night, it needs to be the same. The brain likes patterns and remembers what is supposed to come next, bedtime is no different for our smart little brains!
If you have a little one that just can NOT regulate and sleep after months of doing the same, then try and look for other things that can help, but keep the routine the same.
1. Try to do a little toddler resistance training during the day.
~Don't you look at me sideways! I'm serious! Have your toddler bring the gallon of milk to the table at dinnertime. Perhaps the little one can push the full laundry basket across the house to where it needs to be. If you have more than one child, have them take turns pulling one another across the floor using a blanket. This toddler workout can be helpful and fun! What happens is the little muscles get a good work out and help the body understand that it needs rest. You may find that your little one needs to do their big workout earlier or later in the day, based on their energy levels.
2. Try some ambient noise.
~The sleep cycle is not just a fall asleep and then wake up, it is a series of events that happens in cycles through out the night. You will notice that your young one is easier to wake one time than another, this may be that you happened to wake them at a certain time in their sleep cycle. To help make sure that some little unexpected noise doesn't wake them, have some little noise in the back ground. The sound of the ocean or other small noise is relaxing in the background. Small sounds will cover the unexpected sound of a car passing or squirrel at the window. If you have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, or a sleeping sibling moves around a lot, the ambient noise will help to keep the brain from trying to figure out what the noise is.
3. Go with or without a night light.
~You may find that your child wakes in the night and needs the light to orient where they are, or that the light tells them to get up and explore. There is no right or wrong with this! Each child is going to vary on the level of stimulation they can take if they woke in the middle of the night before they can go back to sleep. If you find that they cry with out one, then by all means keep it. Once a child starts to freak out, they are awake, so its better to avoid this scene all together.
4. Drinks
~Some people are trying to break night wetting and so they try and keep the night drinks to a minimum. If you are avoiding the night stand drink, make sure the room is moist enough. A humidifier in the room will help the body not dry out and trigger a thirst response in the night. Make sure to have this item where the children can not get to it, and it does not have a heating element that can be exposed. There are many options that can work for you fairly cheap.
5. When everything is broken and nothing fixes it and the world is crashing down on you...
~I have a sensory child that does not regulate sleep. Her body does not make melatonin in the dark and let her body know that it is time to sleep. Here are some things that we have had to do to keep her safe, and for her to get some sleep.
A. Our doctor recommended melatonin. Check with your doctor to see if this is right for your child. This does not cause them to fall asleep like some medications parents try and use (benadryl or other PM medications) but helps them get to the state of falling asleep. If the child does not rest after taking the melatonin, the body will act as if it is not there and fight the effects. We have reading time after the melatonin in a dim room and they slowly go to sleep.
B. As a very small toddler, we had to gate her in her room with a safety gate. This allowed us to hear her with the door open, and also reminded her that she couldn't wander the house in the middle of the night when she woke.
C. Her room was set up for sleeping only. By taking the toys out of the room, we created a sleep space that didn't remind her of playtime. A few snuggly blankets, comfortable animal or two, and her noise reducing environment helps her to sleep the night through.
There are many more options out there, and I am not an expert, by far, so keep plugging away. Eventually they sleep, or grow up lol.
Happy sleeping!
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Its forward, and then back
I am reminded to remain humble. Life is a process of forward and then back. Just when we think that we are at the bottom, we can slip further back, and when we think that things will never change, we move forward.
I have a safe place to be, and my children are warm and fed. I can't help but to wonder when we will be able to really move forward though.
When DH lost his job, well, it was hard. I wanted to scream and yell at him. It was his fault that he got fired. It was his fault that he isn't doing is role as provider any longer. I didn't. I simply said that we would figure something out.
And now we have nothing left. I can't go on cash assistance and put my two babies in day care just to sit in an office two blocks from my home and look for jobs. (work first program) We have paid the water, phone, and mortgage for this month, but have a gas and electric bill. Our friends (who bought this house just so that we could land contract it from them and move out of their house) are now paying for our gas for our vehicle.
With all the job searching we have done, nothing is coming up. We have applied for all the 7.40$ jobs that are in our area, to no avail. So we have enrolled into college and both of us are going full time. With the pell grant and student loans, we will be able to pay the tuition, and hopefully be able to pay ahead on some things.
We have plenty of food, and the house is warm, but there is more that I would love, like enough to pay my bills.
There is always hope for tomorrow. A new skill set for me, and a new skill set for DH may be the turn around that we need. There is always another step forward to be had.
I have a safe place to be, and my children are warm and fed. I can't help but to wonder when we will be able to really move forward though.
When DH lost his job, well, it was hard. I wanted to scream and yell at him. It was his fault that he got fired. It was his fault that he isn't doing is role as provider any longer. I didn't. I simply said that we would figure something out.
And now we have nothing left. I can't go on cash assistance and put my two babies in day care just to sit in an office two blocks from my home and look for jobs. (work first program) We have paid the water, phone, and mortgage for this month, but have a gas and electric bill. Our friends (who bought this house just so that we could land contract it from them and move out of their house) are now paying for our gas for our vehicle.
With all the job searching we have done, nothing is coming up. We have applied for all the 7.40$ jobs that are in our area, to no avail. So we have enrolled into college and both of us are going full time. With the pell grant and student loans, we will be able to pay the tuition, and hopefully be able to pay ahead on some things.
We have plenty of food, and the house is warm, but there is more that I would love, like enough to pay my bills.
There is always hope for tomorrow. A new skill set for me, and a new skill set for DH may be the turn around that we need. There is always another step forward to be had.
"It's like a cheeseburger, for your back"
Yes, that is a real quote.
DH has eczema and didn't use his proper soap that we have in the bathroom for him, so he was being itchy. I think that it also could be that I have to have the house warm in the middle of the cold winter, so the heat is constantly on, but we will go with the "him at fault" theory.
I was standing in the kitchen and DH asked me to use the Udder lotion on his back. I put a bit on him and then went to put the bottle away and he busts out with that line, the title to this post...
uhh? what?
I really did blankly stare at him. Usually I can come back with something witty, or snarky, or SOMETHING.. But I really did not have anything. I didn't even know what the hell he was talking about lol.
He had to explain, You know, cheeseburger... for your SKIN...
uhhh...
Of course, at this time, I am about to piss myself because I am laughing so hard. I have no idea what he is talking about and I feel like I am talking to a toddler that is just learning to talk...
Finally he is able to explain and, sad to say, it makes sense.
Cheeseburgers are COMFORT food, you know, they are really good and make you feel better.
The Udder lotion is like that, but for your skin.
That man cracks me up.
DH has eczema and didn't use his proper soap that we have in the bathroom for him, so he was being itchy. I think that it also could be that I have to have the house warm in the middle of the cold winter, so the heat is constantly on, but we will go with the "him at fault" theory.
I was standing in the kitchen and DH asked me to use the Udder lotion on his back. I put a bit on him and then went to put the bottle away and he busts out with that line, the title to this post...
uhh? what?
I really did blankly stare at him. Usually I can come back with something witty, or snarky, or SOMETHING.. But I really did not have anything. I didn't even know what the hell he was talking about lol.
He had to explain, You know, cheeseburger... for your SKIN...
uhhh...
Of course, at this time, I am about to piss myself because I am laughing so hard. I have no idea what he is talking about and I feel like I am talking to a toddler that is just learning to talk...
Finally he is able to explain and, sad to say, it makes sense.
Cheeseburgers are COMFORT food, you know, they are really good and make you feel better.
The Udder lotion is like that, but for your skin.
That man cracks me up.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Back to the cloth!
I know that I don't spend a TON on diapers each month, but currently each little penny is precious.
I am busting out my old stash of cloth diapers when I had my 4 girls in them. You all don't think that my two boys are going to mind the occasional pink butt do you?
Perhaps they will potty train early. ;)
I am busting out my old stash of cloth diapers when I had my 4 girls in them. You all don't think that my two boys are going to mind the occasional pink butt do you?
Perhaps they will potty train early. ;)
Finding time
Time is one of those funny things that we never seem to have, but it is always there.
When I say, "Oh, I brushed my hair today!" some people think that I don't because I am too busy with other things. The reality of the situation is that it is my personality that causes me to rarely brush my hair and when I do it is a big deal. lol, let me explain.
I wash my hair every day and while I am doing that, I run my fingers through it while the conditioner is in. I come out and towel dry and leave it do it's thing. I am a very "natural" girl. I never wear make up, save for the very few times that I think I am going to want to save a picture of me. ( I do tend to wash out in a picture with out make up, so I have to buy some every other year for my picture, then it gets tossed out) If I wanted to find the time to brush, curl, or whatever, I would.
We always manage to make time to do things that we see as "important" and things that we don't, well they just go down the list, and then down, and then push it a bit back, and back further yet... You get the picture.
Working out is one of those things for me. I hate working out. I don't really have a reason to NOT work out. I used to manage to find time to attend college, homeschool, and work, and run a homeschool group online.
Now my only jobs are to sit at home with ONLY two babies while everyone else is off at school. I CAN FIND TIME!!!
But I try and say that the house chores can get done while everyone else is at school and I can enjoy the kids when they get home...
Do you hear the yes you can, then the excuse set up on why you can't? Oh I can! And I usually don't care...
But DH and I are thinking that this is the year that we would like to actually have a ceremony and get legally married. I think the date 11-11-11 would be so cool! Plus all of our kids can walk and stand up in the wedding.
So, here it is... my pledge, to myself, that I will find the time to TONE... not drop a ton of weight, or whatever... but to tone what I have and try and get a bit more in shape. Even if it means getting on the Kinect or Wii, with the kids, I will do some sort of activity that is not general house cleaning, non impact-low key work.
When I say, "Oh, I brushed my hair today!" some people think that I don't because I am too busy with other things. The reality of the situation is that it is my personality that causes me to rarely brush my hair and when I do it is a big deal. lol, let me explain.
I wash my hair every day and while I am doing that, I run my fingers through it while the conditioner is in. I come out and towel dry and leave it do it's thing. I am a very "natural" girl. I never wear make up, save for the very few times that I think I am going to want to save a picture of me. ( I do tend to wash out in a picture with out make up, so I have to buy some every other year for my picture, then it gets tossed out) If I wanted to find the time to brush, curl, or whatever, I would.
We always manage to make time to do things that we see as "important" and things that we don't, well they just go down the list, and then down, and then push it a bit back, and back further yet... You get the picture.
Working out is one of those things for me. I hate working out. I don't really have a reason to NOT work out. I used to manage to find time to attend college, homeschool, and work, and run a homeschool group online.
Now my only jobs are to sit at home with ONLY two babies while everyone else is off at school. I CAN FIND TIME!!!
But I try and say that the house chores can get done while everyone else is at school and I can enjoy the kids when they get home...
Do you hear the yes you can, then the excuse set up on why you can't? Oh I can! And I usually don't care...
But DH and I are thinking that this is the year that we would like to actually have a ceremony and get legally married. I think the date 11-11-11 would be so cool! Plus all of our kids can walk and stand up in the wedding.
So, here it is... my pledge, to myself, that I will find the time to TONE... not drop a ton of weight, or whatever... but to tone what I have and try and get a bit more in shape. Even if it means getting on the Kinect or Wii, with the kids, I will do some sort of activity that is not general house cleaning, non impact-low key work.
And the Beat(ing) keeps going on
It's something about beating a dead horse, or dog.. or something...
These days it could be about my situation. As you may, or may not, know, DH was fired from his job two weeks before Christmas. Just two weeks before he was going to be on leave for the season and receiving unemployment.
We were still hopeful that we were going to fall under the category of being able to get unemployment, then I finally talked to a live person.
The way it stands, the former employer sent in 13 PAGES of documentation on why they said DH deserved to be fired. The way they paint the information is very damaging and I would totally have fired him myself, but of course everything can be explained much nicer than they put it.
The roll over accident that he was in was listed as being the fault of his speeding and said that he damaged two major company vehicle pieces beyond repair. ~ read this as he was doing 20 miles per hour getting on an expressway and the sludge in the vehicle surged and caused the back end of the truck to start to roll to the side, which in turn, caused the main cab to roll. It was a controlled fall, no leakage of the biosolids from the tanker, and it is still intact. The tanker does have a "flat spot" on the side though.
Speeding ticket. ~ Read this as they put him in vehicle that does not have a working speedometer and he often used his iphone App to gauge his speed.
Speeding ticket. ~ He was passing a vehicle and an officer was coming over the hill and saw him, in the passing zone, passing. Ticket was for 4 miles an hour over. :/
Damage to vehicle. ~ He was in the field, middle of winter, and was driving at an idle towards where he had to park. He was nearing the pole to park and realized that, even at an idle, he was going to bump, he turned last second and barely clipped the pole right where the driver side light was.
Each time they are saying that he was "speeding" and because its his word against the company (that is using the police tickets to back up their theory) there is no way we will win.
Our plan was to look for a decent job while he was, hopefully, going to be getting unemployment, until we found out this information. Information that we would not have gotten until the middle of February had I not called in.
BUT... Being that I don't like sitting around waiting, and am a momma of action, I enrolled BOTH of us back into college. We have applied for every job that was 7.45$ or more that were within our skill set, and there were not many options. While we wait and see what can come up for us, we might as well increase our skill set right?
I know that taking out college loans is not the best of ideas to keep us afloat, but it is much better than asking for cash assistance from the state and doing the work first program. We can work around each others schedules this way, and eventually, it will all get paid back in the end. :)
These days it could be about my situation. As you may, or may not, know, DH was fired from his job two weeks before Christmas. Just two weeks before he was going to be on leave for the season and receiving unemployment.
We were still hopeful that we were going to fall under the category of being able to get unemployment, then I finally talked to a live person.
The way it stands, the former employer sent in 13 PAGES of documentation on why they said DH deserved to be fired. The way they paint the information is very damaging and I would totally have fired him myself, but of course everything can be explained much nicer than they put it.
The roll over accident that he was in was listed as being the fault of his speeding and said that he damaged two major company vehicle pieces beyond repair. ~ read this as he was doing 20 miles per hour getting on an expressway and the sludge in the vehicle surged and caused the back end of the truck to start to roll to the side, which in turn, caused the main cab to roll. It was a controlled fall, no leakage of the biosolids from the tanker, and it is still intact. The tanker does have a "flat spot" on the side though.
Speeding ticket. ~ Read this as they put him in vehicle that does not have a working speedometer and he often used his iphone App to gauge his speed.
Speeding ticket. ~ He was passing a vehicle and an officer was coming over the hill and saw him, in the passing zone, passing. Ticket was for 4 miles an hour over. :/
Damage to vehicle. ~ He was in the field, middle of winter, and was driving at an idle towards where he had to park. He was nearing the pole to park and realized that, even at an idle, he was going to bump, he turned last second and barely clipped the pole right where the driver side light was.
Each time they are saying that he was "speeding" and because its his word against the company (that is using the police tickets to back up their theory) there is no way we will win.
Our plan was to look for a decent job while he was, hopefully, going to be getting unemployment, until we found out this information. Information that we would not have gotten until the middle of February had I not called in.
BUT... Being that I don't like sitting around waiting, and am a momma of action, I enrolled BOTH of us back into college. We have applied for every job that was 7.45$ or more that were within our skill set, and there were not many options. While we wait and see what can come up for us, we might as well increase our skill set right?
I know that taking out college loans is not the best of ideas to keep us afloat, but it is much better than asking for cash assistance from the state and doing the work first program. We can work around each others schedules this way, and eventually, it will all get paid back in the end. :)
Sunday, January 2, 2011
This time last year/birth Jan 3rd
I was preparing to go to the hospital for my 8th, and last, induction. Yes, you read that right... All 8 of my babies were over 40 weeks. Even at that, we had a hard time giving them their eviction papers. I had everything packed and ready to go, the kids were all snuggled in bed and it was going to be my last sleep of a mother to 7.
I was fortunate that this last birth ended up as a vaginal delivery, as were the previous 7.
I was scared that he was going to be breech on the day of, but he managed to hear me and turned a few weeks ahead of time. When they were finally able to get me into labor they realized that he was "Sunny side up" and that it was going to be a difficult labor. Difficult is not new to me so I pushed away.... and pushed... and pushed...
Then I realized that it had never hurt so bad to be in labor and during delivery. The epidural that I had was doing the job of taking the edge off, but there was something seriously wrong. He just felt stuck. I begged to be cut open, pleading with my midwife and telling her that he was stuck, there was no way that he was going to come out the way he was. She didn't understand, said there was plenty of room, that I had a 9 lb baby before and that I could DO this! I can't begin to explain how supportive she was. She was really on my side and did not want to call in the OB, we had worked so hard and so she didn't understand when I lost my self and broke down.
I was laboring on my back, on my hands and knees, flipping over and standing on the bed, rolling back to kneel and straight up, on my side... She even mentioned that she had NEVER seen someone move so fast in labor. I just wanted the pain to stop and if moving to a new position was going to do it, then by god I was going to MOVE THAT WAY! Nothing worked.
She looked to my DH and asked if I was "like this" during labor, and he just looked and shook his head. He looked a bit worried when he saw my face pleading to him that I needed it to be over. He knew there was something going wrong because I am terrified of being cut open. My first birth I threatened to walk out the door AMA if they threatened to cut me open one more time. (I even recall saying I would give birth to the kid in the woods next to a tree screaming before I would let them gut me open)
She asked me over and over to explain HOW it was different and I just couldn't put my words into order. The pain was blinding. It was telling me that I was going to kill him trying to get him out like that, and that I might not make it either... I remember being terrified.
Finally I was able to explain that he felt like he was on my pelvic bone and my tail bone, my body still contracting despite my willing to get it to stop. I was trying my hardest to NOT push but the pitocin willed me along. I convinced her that she needed to prep me, she asked for the OB and consult to come in.
They turned down the pitocin and I continued to move, one side leg up over my midwifes shoulder was horrible, the other side leg down felt better... I was able to relax for a moment.
When the OB came in she talked openly with the Midwife. They were counfounded. The pit had been turned off and my labor stopped, yes, stopped and not slowed. So I felt so much better. My body was not doing a marathon run anymore. Thankfully the OB checked and realized what the problem was...
The baby was indeed stuck while I was in labor. When he was in the birthing canal he managed to try and turn. He was no longer sunny side up and looking at the ceiling, he was facing my left side and so I was smashing his left shoulder into the top of my pubic bone, and the right one into my tail bone. My little guy knew he couldn't fit while looking towards the ceiling and tried to move for me, to no avail.
When the Pit was turned off and I decided to roll to my comfortable side, little one finished rolling. He was now looking towards my back and so the OB asked if I wanted to give it a go, she was willing to do my request, but she saw no reason that I could not deliver now that he had resolved his issues.
I told her she needed to make sure, I was not willing to torture him more, or myself. Upon her inspection she found his arm folded back from the turn, she brought it forward so he was tucked right. We turned the pit back on and I was able to push out my little 9 lb butterball with nary a problem.
The poor little guy was so bruised they didn't give him a good starting APGAR, thinking he was not breathing... then when they got his next APGAR they realized that his entire face and head was bruised and gave him perfect scores.
My poor baby was purple for the few days following his birth, but he couldn't be more perfect now.
Happy 1 yr little one~
I was fortunate that this last birth ended up as a vaginal delivery, as were the previous 7.
I was scared that he was going to be breech on the day of, but he managed to hear me and turned a few weeks ahead of time. When they were finally able to get me into labor they realized that he was "Sunny side up" and that it was going to be a difficult labor. Difficult is not new to me so I pushed away.... and pushed... and pushed...
Then I realized that it had never hurt so bad to be in labor and during delivery. The epidural that I had was doing the job of taking the edge off, but there was something seriously wrong. He just felt stuck. I begged to be cut open, pleading with my midwife and telling her that he was stuck, there was no way that he was going to come out the way he was. She didn't understand, said there was plenty of room, that I had a 9 lb baby before and that I could DO this! I can't begin to explain how supportive she was. She was really on my side and did not want to call in the OB, we had worked so hard and so she didn't understand when I lost my self and broke down.
I was laboring on my back, on my hands and knees, flipping over and standing on the bed, rolling back to kneel and straight up, on my side... She even mentioned that she had NEVER seen someone move so fast in labor. I just wanted the pain to stop and if moving to a new position was going to do it, then by god I was going to MOVE THAT WAY! Nothing worked.
She looked to my DH and asked if I was "like this" during labor, and he just looked and shook his head. He looked a bit worried when he saw my face pleading to him that I needed it to be over. He knew there was something going wrong because I am terrified of being cut open. My first birth I threatened to walk out the door AMA if they threatened to cut me open one more time. (I even recall saying I would give birth to the kid in the woods next to a tree screaming before I would let them gut me open)
She asked me over and over to explain HOW it was different and I just couldn't put my words into order. The pain was blinding. It was telling me that I was going to kill him trying to get him out like that, and that I might not make it either... I remember being terrified.
Finally I was able to explain that he felt like he was on my pelvic bone and my tail bone, my body still contracting despite my willing to get it to stop. I was trying my hardest to NOT push but the pitocin willed me along. I convinced her that she needed to prep me, she asked for the OB and consult to come in.
They turned down the pitocin and I continued to move, one side leg up over my midwifes shoulder was horrible, the other side leg down felt better... I was able to relax for a moment.
When the OB came in she talked openly with the Midwife. They were counfounded. The pit had been turned off and my labor stopped, yes, stopped and not slowed. So I felt so much better. My body was not doing a marathon run anymore. Thankfully the OB checked and realized what the problem was...
The baby was indeed stuck while I was in labor. When he was in the birthing canal he managed to try and turn. He was no longer sunny side up and looking at the ceiling, he was facing my left side and so I was smashing his left shoulder into the top of my pubic bone, and the right one into my tail bone. My little guy knew he couldn't fit while looking towards the ceiling and tried to move for me, to no avail.
When the Pit was turned off and I decided to roll to my comfortable side, little one finished rolling. He was now looking towards my back and so the OB asked if I wanted to give it a go, she was willing to do my request, but she saw no reason that I could not deliver now that he had resolved his issues.
I told her she needed to make sure, I was not willing to torture him more, or myself. Upon her inspection she found his arm folded back from the turn, she brought it forward so he was tucked right. We turned the pit back on and I was able to push out my little 9 lb butterball with nary a problem.
The poor little guy was so bruised they didn't give him a good starting APGAR, thinking he was not breathing... then when they got his next APGAR they realized that his entire face and head was bruised and gave him perfect scores.
My poor baby was purple for the few days following his birth, but he couldn't be more perfect now.
Happy 1 yr little one~
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